Benidorm Part 2

I was worried about Day 2, but Jamie woke up feeling refreshed and was happy to come to the nearest pub so that myself, hubby and Joe could have breakfast.  She wanted to wait until lunch time and have some Chicken Dippers again.  The nearest pub was literally over the road so off we went.  The Jukebox Bar was amazing, free Wifi, relaxed atmosphere, pool tables for Joe and they sold Pepsi Light & Quavers!! We ordered our breakfasts and asked Jamie if she would like to try toast? If she didn’t like it Joe would eat it anyway.  She thought this was a good idea and as she’d tried Chicken Dippers she was on a role.  When the toast arrived she was a little nervous but she had a bite and she loved it.  So now she eats toast (you all know how good that feels).

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So for the next week we spent our time between the pool and the bar and I have to say we have never had a more relaxing holiday.  Joe spent all day in the pool and when Jamie had enough she could chill on a sun lounger with her IPad.  We had planned to go to the Waterparks and Animals parks but it was too hot and Jamie wouldn’t go any further than the pub across the road.  This turned out to be quite beneficial as Joe made a little friend who loved Pokemon and they invited Jamie to play with them in the pool.  Normally she would just ignore them and do her own thing but as this included one of her interests she gave it a go and had a great time.  I haven’t seen her play with another child other than Joe on the Wii U, this was another amazing achievement.

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The times that we did venture out went ok.  Joe desperately wanted to see the hotel that Benidorm was filmed at and he wanted to see Neptunes Bar.  He also wanted to play Mini Golf so we decided to combine the walk so that we only had to do it once (we were up a hill).  Although Jamie did moan and said she was going to die she was controllable.  She enjoyed mini golf but it was too hot so she only did half of it and then we went to find shade while Joe finished his holes.

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The only other thing Jamie wanted was a Fan and a Hair Braid.  Luckily we didn’t have to go far for these and she extremely happy with both.

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Jamie has said she loves Spain, she says they do brilliant food (I don’t think she realises the dippers and bread were English) and she wants to make Benidorm our annual holiday, especially as she knows what to expect now.  Myself and hubby were not impressed with our accommodation especially for what we paid (yes we used our Family Fund voucher but we had to put another £400 towards the accommodation).  It was very dated and not particularly clean, the pool side was covered in fag ash and we never saw it get cleaned the week that we were there.  The staff were great but when I think of spending £900 on that apartment when we could have got a villa for that price.

The journey home was much the same as the journey there, lots of excitement.  Both kids enjoyed the aiport and the flight and again for Jamie it was like being on a swing.

So now we are back we will be looking into going again next year and keeping the memories fresh in her mind.  Apart from the first day the rest of the holiday was amazing.  here are a few happy photos …

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Benidorm Part 1

The back story to our holiday as some of you may know, last year we went to Blackpool and stayed in a hotel and Jamie didn’t eat for 3 days.  Her paternal grandparents came and took her to there house so that we could continue our holiday with Joe.

This year we decided we would go abroad and Jamie didn’t want to come, she wanted to stay with her grand parents again, so we were going to take Joe.  Then she changed her mind so we needed to plan!! Bendiorm was a close flight and it had an Iceand so we could feed her.  Finding an apartment with aircon, wifi and an oven proved a difficult task but we got there in the end.

So we set off on our journey to Glasgow Airport.  We got as far as Gretna when my hubby realised he’d forgotten his wallet!! He needed it as he’d booked the hire car using it.  So rather than trail back I decided I would stay at the services with the kids while he went back for his wallet.  This was the first test, Jamie wasn’t happy about it but once we got logged onto the wifi she was fine and we waited for her dad to get back with his wallet!! So lucky that we had set off the night before as if it had been the day of the flight we would have probably missed it.  So he got his wallet and we set back off to the airport.  

Jamie was very happy with the airport hotel and was looking forward to popping into the Wetherspoons at the airport for tea.  So we checked in and headed over.

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Unfortunately the Wetherspoons at the airport didn’t cook their food the same way, so she couldn’t eat her tea – but she was so excited she didn’t care.  We went back to the airport hotel and logged onto Wifi and ate Quavers while the boys played pool!

The next day Jamie was more than happy to get up at 3am because she was so excited about getting on the airplane.  So it was quite smooth getting from the hotel to the airport, check in and security went without a hitch! 

We bought matching hats and she posed for pictures with her dad and borrowed Joe’s binoculars to look at the planes.

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When we got on the plane she was obsessed by the safety instructions.  She “followed the rules” no electronics during take off and landing.  We had a fair few looks when we took off and she was repeatedly screaming “Oh my God, Oh my God, it’s just like being on a swing” but I found it extremely cute.  I wish I could have filmed it, but … no electronics during take off or landing!

During the flight she watched Frozen on her IPad and then listened to the soundtrack on her IPod.  I am so glad we downloaded those the night before.  Then it was time for landing which was the same as take off and very exciting for her.  We got off the plane and through passport control and baggage claim without a hiccup.  We got our hire car and set off for Benidorm.  We arrived … then the meltdown started

When we booked the apartment we were told that we would be in one of three apartments complexes and we would find out 10 days before.  10 days before we were told we would have to wait until 2 days before.  We tried to get an address so that we could get transfers to the resort but Travel by Inspire didn’t reply and we had no idea of the address so instead we decided to book a hire car.  The hire car was great and we got the same car as we have at home (Nissan Note – added bonus) but we still didn’t know where we were staying! So we headed to Benidorm and found one of the complexes, this was the place we were staying but it had nowhere for us to park.  So hubby dropped me, the kids and the bags and went to find alternative arrangements at one of the other complexes.  We checked into our “Air Conditioned” apartment.  Yes it had air con but it was in the main room and main bedroom and the kids rooms didn’t even have a fan (also the aircon was very dated) at this Jamie went into complete meltdown.  

Hubby found somewhere to park and went to Iceland to find food as by now it had been 24 hours without Jamie having a decent meal.  I took the kids to the pool hoping it would help.  From the moment she got into the water she was so happy and relaxed.  Then hubby arrived back to tell me they didn’t sell any chicken or potato products that Jamie ate and he wasn’t sure what to do! She over heard this and burst in tears and was uncontrollable.  He had managed to get Chicken Dippers and Chips so off he went to cook while I tried to console Jamie and watch  Joe playing happily in the pool.

About an hour had passed and hubby came back down with the food, she took one look and was sick and then she said “does this mean I can go home now?” I nearly cried.  I have never felt so helpless.  I took her up to the room and on the way got a weeks worth of Wifi.  She eventually calmed down in the apartment and went on her IPad and tried the chicken dippers … which she liked! After around 5 tearful hours she was calm and happy and willing to give the holiday a try.  She was so tired so we went to sleep and I worried about what the next day and the following week would bring …

Here are a few photo’s to prepare you for Part 2

Still very tired the morning after arriving

Still very tired the morning after arriving

Enjoying the pool

Enjoying the pool

Jumping in with Joe

Jumping in with Joe

Outside her favourite Pub

Outside her favourite Pub

relaxing on the sun lounger

relaxing on the sun lounger

Crazy Golf

Crazy Golf

happy flappy

happy flappy

enjoying the pool

enjoying the pool

My Daughter has Autism and actually yes she is quite like Rain Man!

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I am always seeing posts that say “Yes my son has Autism, No he is not like Rainman” and i’ve always been tentative about this.  I agree Jamie could not go to Vegas and count cards – which was the first thing my brother asked me when I said she was Autistic.  She hasn’t memorised the phone book and no we can’t drop tooth picks and ask her how many are there.  

She hasn’t memorised the phone book because A. we don’t have a phone book and B. she has a much bigger choice of books than Raymond Babbitt did.  Ask her anything about The Hunger Games however, and she will tell you in an instance.  Along with Harry Potter she has read the Hunger Games Trilogy countless times and know them all inside out.  

Raymond has autism and adheres to STRICT ROUTINES like always watching jeopardy, going to bed at 11pm, maple syrup needs to be on the table before the pancakes and he likes to eat with a toothpick rather than a knife and fork.  He has SUPERB RECALL but he shows little EMOTIONAL EXPRESSION except when in distress.  Sound familiar? 

In the film Rain Man, Raymond struggles with literal things.  For example when crossing the road and the sign says Walk he does, but when it changes to Don’t Walk he stops in the middle of the street.

He repeats phases for example “Bam the future of rock n roll”, this is called Echolalia, how many of our children do this with adverts etc?

Raymond doesn’t like to be TOUCHED, he doesn’t like LOUD NOISES and he often puts his HANDS OVER HIS EARS or HITS HIMSELF in the head when frustrated.

Raymond will only buy his underwear from K Mart and will only wear a certain type.  I know in our house Jamie will only wear seam free underwear from Primark!  

Raymond has Savant Sydrome, the most dramatic examples of savant syndrome occur in individuals who score very low on IQ tests, while demonstrating exceptional skills or brilliance in specific areas, such as rapid calculation, art, memory, or musical ability.  How many of you can relate to this? 

My personal opinion of the film Rain Man is that it is a brilliant film, I think it is well written and really does show what Autism is.  So next time someone asks me if my child is like Rain Man, I will actually consider saying YES.  

Counting cards, memorising the phone book and counting toothpicks are all very minor details in the film.  The remainder of the film shows Autism at it’s best and worst and I think if you look at Rain Man from a different angle you may see that actually this is the life you are living daily.  

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RN0DczbPznY

LITECUP – NIGHTLIGHT & NON-SPILL SIPPY CUP

 

 

 

 

 

If you’ve got a child that like to balance their drinks on the sofa, bed, etc then this cup is for you.  If you have a child that regularly drops their drinks, then this cup is also for you.  Jamie does both of these things, she also spills all down her front when drinking.  We have been using sports style bottles up until now, but unless the lid is closed and the bottle isn’t cross threaded it doesn’t quite do the job.

We decided we would try the Litecup.  We didn’t need the nightlight part as Jamie likes totally darkness when sleeping but you have a child who likes a night light then this is an added bonus as the light is very good.  You can however simply turn the light off with the push of a button.

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We bought our cup from Love Amber X and chose a purple one (you get a choice of 6 colours or a clear one) we chose purple as it’s Jamie’s calming colour.  It was £8 plus postage and was delivered very quickly.

At first Jamie refused to use the cup as she likes her bottles, but I explained that one day she is going to spill her bottles all over her, I Pad or Laptop and she agreed to try.  You basically suck any part of the outside of the lid and water comes out.  It is fab!!

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You can tip it upside down or any way you like and there will be no spills!!

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We often find Jamie’s bottles like this on the sofa or the bed and a big puddle of water too! This is great she can put it where she likes and we don’t have to worry.  I can fill it up and put it in my bag when out and about and it’s not going to leak.

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Can you see it lay behind her on the sofa? It is just wonderful.  The other bonus is that the light is quite calming so before bed she has the light on for a little while and it seems to be quite soothing.

We will definitely be ordering another one for her in another colour.

 

Presents

I am sorry it has been a while since I did a blog.

I was spurred on to do this after reading about a lady with twins who they called “the birthday grinch” who had put on the bottom of her girls birthday party invitations “no presents please your presence is enough”

My first thoughts were the difference between my children.  Jamie doesn’t really have a party more of a get together with a couple of girls and they are close and tend to find out what she would like for her birthday.  Joe however Xmas Birthday Boy had a party in the summer last year so that he could enjoy it and he ended up with £100+ in his cards at is party.

That made me realise that whenever we go to a party we also put £10 in the card and the amount of parties we attend it soon adds up, so for more than one child this can be an expensive game.  As parents we don’t have parties for our children so that they can get presents, we have them so that they can enjoy their birthday with their friends around them.

So I am seriously considering doing the same thing myself in the future, or something my kids have suggested is to ask for donations to charity rather than presents or money for them.

So I will ponder this, it’s 4 months until Jamie’s birthday and 6 until Joe’s, but I would be interested to know what other people think/do?

See below link to original story:

http://www.parentdish.co.uk/kids/the-birthday-grinch-no-presents-please/

Do we need to be social???

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I don’t know about you but I am always worried that Jamie isn’t social enough and when I say enough she is NOT social at all.

She doesn’t seek anything social and when she is in social situations she is does not have a clue.  She doesn’t understand social situations and she doesn’t understand how to be social.  But people are always banging on about how we need to “socialise” our kids. But why?

I for one only socialise as and when I want to with people that I want to, so why am I arranging play dates for my child with children who have completely different interests and lives? She doesn’t want friends, she doesn’t need friends and she doesn’t feel bad for not having friends.  She just wants to be left to get on with the things she enjoys in life, like Sims, Little Big Planet, Minecraft & Pokemon. 10 year old girls don’t have the same interests, or if they do it is very rare or they are usually also on the spectrum and probably also do not want to socalise!! 

So I arranged said Play Date with some lovely girls who Jamie used to go to school with.  They came to our house so that she was in familiar surroundings.  The first thing I noticed was that these girls talk!! Now Jamie is verbal but she doesn’t “chat”, they talk about music and TV and what they’ve been doing.  So straight away it is uncomfortable.  For around 20 minutes they happily played on the Wii U, but then that was enough.  Jamie stuck her headphones on and sat on the other sofa with her IPad.  When one of the girls asked if they could sit next to her and watch her reply was “no thank you”.  So I make lunch and put the Disney channel on for the girls while Jamie continues to eat and read on the IPad.  I can tell she is anxious.  She agrees to play dolls upstairs after lunch, but when I follow her up she is actually reading stats on Pokemon cards.  5 minutes later she’s lying on the sofa in meltdown.  I have an hour to kill now before the girls go home and i’m feeling sorry for them and Jamie.  They don’t really understand why she doesn’t want to play with her, she doesn’t understand why they want to play.  So Jamie goes on Little Big Planet to calm herself while the girls walk our dog round the estate.  They ask if they can go to the shop??? Jamie never goes outside on her own let alone off the street we live on and I actually don’t know what to say.  What do 10 year old girls do, what are boundaries, where do they go? So I say I will take them to the shop on the way home.

We make the 30 minute journey to where the girls live and Jamie has her headphones on the whole way.  I stop at the garage to fuel up and the girls jump out and go into the shop – another thing I have not experienced.  Jamie didn’t even noticed we had stopped for fuel she was so far in her own world.  We passed the place where Jamie rides so the girls were asking her questions, she simply replied “no thank you” and put her headphones back on.  The girls ask to go to McDonalds, again I am shocked, Jamie never asks for anything.  They are literally worlds apart.  So we drop her friends off and I have to take her headphones off so she can say goodbye. Then we make the 30 minute journey home in silence …

So what has she gained from this socially? 

How has this affected her anxiety?

Was it worth it?

Will I do it again?

Well i’m sat here now mentally exhausted, so I can’t even begin to imagine how Jamie is feeling.  It was lovely to see her friends again and I really wanted it to be a nice day where she would realise that it’s something she should do more often.  But did it make her happy?  

What makes her happy is being in her own world, obsessing about her own interests, and being calm and routine.

Ask her who her best friend is she will tell you her dog.  Her dog makes her happy :)